A Tribute to Mother’s Day
Sunday is Mother’s Day. There are those of you out there that think of this as a ridiculous holiday that Hallmark created to sell more cards. To those folks I say, fine … make a card instead.
My mother kept a card for YEARS that I made as a toddler. My older brothers were old enough to write their own words, but at age four all I could do was copy letters. Too proud to ask for help; I copied the closest letters on our craft table. I copied “Happ Mohers Day” off one of my brother’s card – forgetting an occasional letter, and my inner message read: “Elmer’s Glue All” (copied from the bottle of glue in front of me!) My mother was kind and held back her laughter; it was the tears that streamed down her face that said it all. She LOVED it!
In my eyes Mother’s Day is a great reminder to thank women everywhere that have raised children, cared for children and in some cases had the patience to simply be “around” some children. So thank you to all of the daycare providers, teachers, lunchroom workers, bus drivers, coaches, nurses, doctors, grandmothers, neighbors and friends who help us raise our kids! It truly does take a village.
Some mothers never gave birth and yet found themselves raising “little monsters”. In my opinion being a step-parent is the hardest job in the world. Kudos to all the step-mothers out there – I especially hope that you enjoy your Mother’s Day!
Here is where I get to mention all the new mothers who have blessed our lives. You know who you are! I am so proud of each and every one of you! What a blessing to watch you interact with your newborn and to watch you both blossom into a cherished mother-child relationship. No one said it would be easy, but you make it look effortless.
Hey, we all know that there are those days! Hang in there and remember that those days are the reminders that make us appreciate the great days. We love it when you bring your children with you to visit our Yurt Village. Thank you for brightening our day.
There are also “mothers” to pets. While some may attest that this doesn’t count … try telling them that as they pine over the loss of their baby after 14 years. My brother used to give my sister-in-law a gift every Mother’s Day from “Art” and I know it still hurts to this day that he has passed. To couples who never had children, their pets become their children. So Happy Mother’s Day to you too!
This mark on the calendar is also an important time to reflect on our deceased mothers and grandmothers. I unfortunately am in this category as my mother passed away 8 years ago this spring and both of my grandmothers left this world over 18 years ago.
While I miss my mother and grandmothers terribly, I live on knowing that they raised me right … I am kind and fair; and honest to a fault. They all had a hand in my outcome as did your mother, step-mother, and grandmothers. I honor them.
Of course we must mention the almighty Diva herself … the Mother-in-Law! That was a joke! We like to joke about this fragile relationship.
I look at this as sort of a rite of passage. Just like anything worthwhile in life, you will get out of this relationship what you put into it. If you look for “issues” you will certainly find them. Best advice is to accept the inevitable and embrace the differences. That goes for both parties! (And buy some Gortex for those intense storms!)
Here is to all the wonderful Mother-in-Laws out there who renounce the stereotype and are always there for the spouses of their children. By tearing down walls and tossing barriers you graciously bless these additions as true members of the family and love them as your own. What a great example you are!
Seriously, you didn’t think I would forget to mention “her” did you? We all have to share this beautiful planet…why not thank our goddess and female spirit representing the earth. There are many ways to thank Mother Earth, if you do not currently compost; start your project on Sunday. You could plant a vegetable or herb garden this weekend (mine is doing fabulously – except for the basil! Augh!)
My ideal Mother’s day (Seattle weather permitting) every year for the last decade has been to work in the yard with no interruptions followed by a fabulous meal either home cooked or enjoyed at a local restaurant. All I ask is to not do the dishes on Mother’s Day!
So predictably this year I plan to work in the yard in the morning followed by a leisurely stroll through Pike Place Market and a seafood dinner on the Seattle waterfront. Sunday is supposed to be the first 80 degree day in the Pacific Northwest so far this year! All I can say is – it doesn’t get much better than that!
So please remember this weekend to thank the women in your life, whether they are your mother or not, and acknowledge (Hallmark cards are not necessary) those who have impacted you in some way.
Trust me, 90% of what they do never gets noticed or thanked and a tiny bit of appreciation goes a long way.
Happy Mother’s Day!